The Colors of Kink

                                    Internet Image find from Black BDSM Facebook post I recently had the opportunity to co-top an incredible young woman and her partner, both close friends of mine. It was a truly special experience, and it sparked a lot of reflection on the significance of race within the kink community.   As I considered what made this scene so impactful, I realized that throughout my years in kink, my interactions with POC players have been limited. Most of my play partners, including my current partner, have been white—not by choice, but simply due to availability and circumstances. This lack of representation in my play experiences often left me feeling disconnected from my own cultural identity.   However, over the past couple of years, this dynamic has begun to shift. I met the couple I played with through a relatively new munch group for POC players in my area. For...

 This first entry is to give you some insight into who I am.  That being said, do not take it to mean you will know me after reading.  But you will have an idea. Navigating the world of boxes in the Kink community is the biggest trap for those of us who hate definitive definitions determined by the binary collective.    My feelings and thoughts are informed by how I chose to live my life and those I choose to share it with and they with me.   Everything I do I started experiencing and developing long before I knew there was an active community to join.   The core of who I am was formed in those years and I have fought like hell to not allow the constraints of the boxes that are applied to us form normative terminology and nomenclature. My existence in the scene is also colored by the fact I am a Black Man in a White controlled environment. The steps I take in this world will always be tempered by the fact others will believe I must live to a differ...